🐍Kundalini Awakening: The Sacred Serpent’s Rise

Imagine a coiled serpent sleeping at the base of your spine, patiently waiting for the right moment to stir. This is the image many traditions use to describe Kundalini — a potent life force energy said to rest in each of us. When awakened, this energy ascends through the spine, activating each chakra and transforming not just your body, but your mind and soul.

Kundalini awakening isn’t a myth whispered by mystics — it’s a deeply experiential process, often life-changing, sometimes overwhelming, and always sacred.

The Roots of Kundalini

Kundalini comes from ancient Indian spiritual traditions, particularly yoga and tantra. In Sanskrit, kundal means “coiled,” referring to the latent spiritual energy resting at the root chakra (Muladhara). This energy is often depicted as a serpent because it moves in a spiral-like ascent through the body’s subtle energy channels (nadis), activating spiritual awareness as it rises.

While yoga postures, breath-work, and meditation can help awaken Kundalini intentionally, it can also stir spontaneously — sometimes triggered by deep meditation, emotional breakthroughs, sexual intimacy, or even trauma.

The Awakening Process

When Kundalini awakens, it’s as if your inner wiring lights up for the first time. The energy travels upward through the Sushumna nadi (central energy channel), moving through the seven main chakras:

1. Muladhara (Root) – The energy stirs from the base of your spine, shaking loose survival fears and grounding you in your body.

2. Svadhisthana (Sacral) – Creativity, sexuality, and emotional depth intensify, often bringing old desires and wounds to the surface.

3. Manipura (Solar Plexus) – Personal power, confidence, and inner fire ignite.

4. Anahata (Heart) – Emotional healing unfolds, often bringing compassion, empathy, and a deep sense of connection to all life.

5. Vishuddha (Throat) – Authentic self-expression becomes unstoppable.

6. Ajna (Third Eye) – Intuition sharpens; visions, insights, and psychic abilities may emerge.

7. Sahasrara (Crown) – A sense of unity with the divine, blissful states, and expanded consciousness blossom.

The process is rarely linear — energy may rise, fall, and spiral, sometimes staying in one chakra for days, months, or years.

Signs of a Kundalini Awakening

Awakening can be subtle or dramatic. Some common signs include:

• Physical sensations: Heat or coolness in the spine, tingling, spontaneous body movements, increased sensitivity to touch and sound.

• Emotional releases: Sudden waves of joy, grief, or anger — often without an obvious trigger.

• Spiritual experiences: Vivid dreams, synchronicities, heightened intuition, or moments of deep peace.

• Expanded states of awareness: Feeling “plugged in” to the universe, sensing energy in people and places.

The Shadows of Awakening

While Kundalini can bring profound transformation, it can also unearth buried fears, traumas, and ego attachments. This stage is sometimes called the Kundalini crisis or spiritual emergency. Without guidance, one might feel:

• Overstimulated or unable to sleep

• Spiritually disoriented or emotionally unstable

• Detached from daily life and relationships

This is why ancient teachings emphasize preparation, grounding practices, and mentorship.

Kundalini & Sacred Sexuality

Kundalini awakening often has an intimate relationship with sexual energy. Tantra teaches that sexual energy and spiritual energy are two expressions of the same life force. When cultivated consciously — through presence, breathwork, and mutual intention — sexual intimacy can act as a spark that sends Kundalini rising.

However, if approached without awareness, the surge of energy can be overwhelming, even destabilizing. The key is respecting the process, allowing the energy to rise naturally, and honoring the body’s signals.

Nurturing the Awakening

If you feel your Kundalini stirring:

• Ground yourself daily: Spend time in nature, practice mindful eating, and stay physically active.

• Journal your experiences: Track sensations, dreams, and shifts in your emotions or beliefs.

• Seek guidance: An experienced teacher, healer, or spiritual mentor can help navigate intense phases.

• Balance the energy: Alternate high-energy practices (breathwork, ecstatic dance) with calming ones (yin yoga, meditation, gentle walks).

The Gift of Kundalini

Ultimately, Kundalini awakening isn’t about fireworks or mystical visions — those are just side effects. The true gift is a deepened relationship with your Self: a clarity that cuts through illusion, a compassion that extends to all beings, and a sense of purpose rooted in divine connection.

When the serpent rises, it doesn’t just change how you see the world — it changes how the world moves through you.

🌑 Sleeping with Shadows: How Third-Party Lovers Drain Your Energy Without Ever Touching You

Because betrayal isn’t just emotional—it’s energetic.

You didn’t sleep with them.

You didn’t even meet them.

But somehow, you still feel… off.

Tired.

Disconnected.

A little less you than before.

When betrayal enters a relationship, most people focus on the emotional wound—trust broken, boundaries crossed. But there’s another layer we rarely talk about:

Energetic triangulation.

When your partner is sexually or emotionally intimate with a third party, they aren’t just swapping body heat and words. They’re swapping energy. And because they’re connected to you, that other person becomes connected to you—without your consent.

🔗 How the Energy Triangle Forms

Sex is an energetic exchange.

It leaves imprints, cords, and sometimes—open doors.

When your partner engages with someone else:

• They take in that person’s emotional and sexual energy.

• They bring it back into your shared intimacy—your bed, your conversations, your energy field.

• Without direct contact, you can still feel the third party’s presence in your body, mood, or dreams.

Think of it like energetic backwash: whatever’s in their field, comes into yours.

🕯️ Signs You’re Feeling the Third Party’s Energy

You might notice…

• Sudden emotional changes that don’t feel like “yours”

• Physical fatigue after being intimate with your partner

• Dreams or intrusive thoughts about people you’ve never met

• Feeling spiritually “cloudy” or disconnected after sex

• A drop in sexual desire or inability to climax with your partner

• A low-grade resentment or unease that lingers

Your intuition may pick up on the connection before your mind fully knows it.

🩸 Why It Feels Like an Energy Drain

Third-party energy siphoning happens because your partner has become a conduit.

Their body, emotions, and sexual energy carry another person’s imprint—and you’re on the receiving end.

If the third party is:

• Energetically needy (feeding on attention or validation)

• Emotionally manipulative (using sex to gain power)

• Spiritually ungrounded (carrying their own chaos)

…then you’re indirectly exposed to all of it.

And because you didn’t choose the exchange, your body often experiences it as a violation, even if you can’t explain why.

🛡️ Protecting Your Energy After Betrayal

You can’t undo what’s been done, but you can reclaim your field.

1. Cleanse Your Space and Body

• Take a salt bath with rosemary or mugwort.

• Smoke cleanse with cedar or frankincense.

• Wash bedding and air out shared spaces.

2. Cord Clearing Visualization

• Close your eyes, see the energetic cords between you and your partner, and between them and the third party.

• Gently remove yourself from the connection—cut the cord, return what’s theirs, reclaim what’s yours.

3. Ground Your Energy

• Barefoot on the earth.

• Slow breathwork.

• Placing your hands on your belly and heart, affirming:
  “I am whole. I am sovereign. I release all that is not mine.”

4. Sexual Pause & Reset

• If possible, take a break from physical intimacy until you feel energetically clear.

• Use self-pleasure rituals to reconnect with your body without outside influence.

🖤 The Truth?

Sex isn’t just physical.

It’s an energetic handshake—or in betrayal, an energetic trespass.

You don’t have to keep letting someone else’s choices bring strangers into your sacred space.

Your body, your energy, your pleasure—these are sovereign.

Reclaim them.

Protect them.

And never apologize for saying:

Only invited souls may enter here.

🔮 Soul Ties & Spiritual Entanglement: The Price of Unconscious Intimacy

Because some one-night stands echo for months.

You didn’t plan to catch feelings.

You didn’t expect your energy to shift.

It was “just sex.”

But now you’re dreaming about them.

Craving them.

Feeling foggy, agitated, ungrounded—and you haven’t even heard from them in days.

Welcome to the strange, sacred terrain of soul ties and spiritual entanglement.

And if you’ve ever left a sexual encounter feeling like something stuck, attached, or followed you home—you’re not crazy. You’re energetically aware.

🧬 What Are Soul Ties?

Soul ties are the invisible energetic cords that can form during deep emotional, sexual, or spiritual connection.

They’re not inherently bad. In fact, healthy ties can feel like connection, intimacy, trust.

But unconscious soul ties?

The ones formed in trauma, lust, avoidance, or imbalance?

Those can feel more like entrapment than union.

🕷️ Signs of Unhealthy Spiritual Entanglement

You might be experiencing an unhealed soul tie if you notice:

• 💭 Obsessive thoughts about someone who is no longer in your life

• 😶 Emotional numbness or mood swings after intimacy

• 🌫️ Feeling energetically “foggy” or disconnected from yourself

• 😵‍💫 Inability to enjoy intimacy with others or even yourself afterward

• 🕯️ Strange dreams, spiritual interference, or psychic discomfort

• 🧲 Repeatedly being drawn back to someone who is harmful or unavailable

It’s not just about emotional attachment. It’s energetic residue. And it lingers until it’s acknowledged and cleared.

🧠 Why It Happens

Sex isn’t just physical. It’s spiritual, emotional, vibrational.

When you engage in sex—especially without full presence, safety, or awareness—you open portals. Literally and metaphorically.

If one partner is deeply unhealed, manipulative, or spiritually unaware, and the other is sensitive, open, or dissociated, an energetic imbalance forms.

Think of it as an unintentional soul contract.

One that keeps looping in your field long after the body-to-body contact ends.

🛑 The Cost of Unconscious Intimacy

• Your clarity

• Your boundaries

• Your spiritual sovereignty

• Your ability to fully connect with yourself or others

• Your nervous system’s regulation and rest

Even if the sex was “good,” it doesn’t mean it was sacred.

And even if you gave consent physically, you may not have been prepared spiritually.

🧹 How to Clear a Soul Tie (or Spiritual Entanglement)

1. Call Your Energy Back
   

1. In a quiet space, say aloud or write:
   “I call all of my energy back from [Name]. I release what is not mine and reclaim what is.”

2. Cord-Cutting Ritual
   

1. Visualize a cord from your body to theirs. Gently sever it with light, a blade, or flame.

2. Thank the lesson. Burn the residue. Breathe into your body.

3. Cleanse Your Space + Body
   

1. Spiritual baths (salt, herbs, prayer)

2. Smoke cleanse (mugwort, rosemary, cedar)

3. Journaling, breathwork, shaking/dance

4. Reflect Without Shaming
   

1. Ask: What was I seeking when I said yes?

2. What did I ignore in my body?

3. What did this experience teach me about my desires or wounds?

5. Seal with a Pleasure Ritual
   

1. Pleasure yourself—not to escape, but to reclaim.

2. Light a candle. Say an affirmation. Touch yourself as if you are the sacred one you’ve been looking for.

🖤 Final Truth

Not every soul you sleep with is meant to stay tied to yours.

Sex is powerful.

But your awareness is more powerful.

You’re allowed to learn.

You’re allowed to release.

You’re allowed to reclaim your body, your energy, and your pleasure—on your terms.

Because intimacy should never cost you your peace.

💫 Pleasure As Prayer

We were taught to bow our heads to pray.

To keep our legs closed, our voices down, our urges hidden.

But what if the body—your body—is a prayer in motion?

What if every moan, every shiver, every breathless moment of pleasure is an offering?

Because let’s be real:

There are moments when surrender feels holy.

When the pulse between your legs becomes a pulse between you and the Divine.

That’s not sin.

That’s sacred.

🔥 Reclaiming Pleasure from the Shame Bin

For centuries, pleasure has been exiled.

Branded selfish. Dirty. Dangerous.

Especially for women, femmes, and queer folks.

It became something we give to others but rarely claim for ourselves.

It was something to hide. Something to apologize for.

But let’s be clear:

Pleasure is not the opposite of holiness.

It’s an access point to it.

🌙 What Is Pleasure-as-Prayer?

It’s not just about orgasms (though those are welcome).

It’s about presence.

It’s about dropping into your body as a site of reverence—not judgment.

Pleasure-as-prayer is…

• The breath you take when you drop into your hips.

• The tears that rise when you finally let yourself receive.

• The touch you give yourself like you’re worshiping something worthy.

Because you are.

🕯️ Turned On = Tuned In

You know those moments?

When your body pulses with sensation and you’re nowhere else but there?

That’s presence.

That’s devotion.

That’s an altar moment.

Whether it’s solo or shared, pleasure can be a way to:

• Call your spirit back into your body

• Release what your mouth can’t say

• Heal where touch once harmed

• Reconnect to joy without performance

🙏 Try This: A Pleasure Prayer Ritual

Create Sacred Space
Light a candle. Set an intention. Maybe play music that makes your hips remember.

1. Bless Your Body
   Touch each part with care. Say thank you to your thighs, your belly, your chest.

2. Slow Down & Listen
   Ask: “Where in my body feels hungry for touch? Where feels nervous? What wants to speak?”

3. Receive—Without Rush
   Touch doesn’t have to lead to climax. Let it lead to connection.

4. Close With Breath or Journaling
   Anchor the moment. Write down what you felt. What rose. What released.

💬 Pleasure Is Not a Distraction—It’s a Return

It’s a return to yourself.

To the pulse of aliveness.

To the sacred center within you that never left, only waited to be noticed.

So the next time you reach for your body in longing—

Do it like you’re lighting incense.

Do it like you’re saying grace.

Do it like your body is the altar.

Because it is.

⚡ The Risk of Using Sexual Energy

Because pleasure is powerful—and power needs responsibility.

We love to talk about sexual energy like it’s magic.

Because… it is.

It stirs the creative cauldron.

It manifests desires.

It heals wounds.

It connects us—deeply, wildly, intimately.

But here’s what most people won’t say:

Sexual energy is a sacred fire.

And if you don’t understand what you’re holding, it can burn just as easily as it can bless.

🔥 What Is “Sexual Energy,” Really?

Sexual energy isn’t just about sex.

It’s life force.

The same energy that creates orgasms… also creates babies, art, revolutions, visions.

Tantric teachings call it kundalini.

Hoodoo and African spiritual systems speak of it in terms of asé, or divine current.

But wherever you find it, the message is the same:

→ It’s not just energy—it’s power.

→ And power, when misused, causes harm.

⚠️ The Risks of Channeling Sexual Energy Without Intention:

1. Energetic Entanglement
   → You’re not just swapping fluids—you’re merging fields.
   → Ever feel drained after sex? That’s not random.

2. Addiction to Stimulation, Not Connection
   → Without awareness, sex becomes escape—numbing instead of nourishing.

3. Manifesting from Wounds Instead of Wholeness
   → When you use orgasm to manifest but you’re rooted in fear, you amplify the fear, too.

4. Emotional Overload
   → Sexual rituals can stir repressed trauma. Without support, it can feel destabilizing.

5. Spiritual Bypassing
   → Using “sacred sexuality” as an aesthetic while ignoring boundaries, consent, and trauma-informed practices.

🧘🏽‍♀️ Sexual Energy Needs a Container

Think of it like electricity.

It lights a room—but without wiring, it can start a fire.

Your body is the altar.

Your boundaries are the wiring.

Your presence is the ritual.

Before channeling sexual energy, ask:

• Am I grounded?

• Am I emotionally clear?

• Do I know what I’m calling in—or who I’m calling in?

• Am I trying to escape something… or move through it?

✨ How to Honor This Power Safely

• Cleanse before & after sexual or energetic exchange (smoke, salt baths, journaling)

• Consent isn’t just for others—it’s for you too. Check in with your body. Don’t override a no.

• Use intention with orgasm. Say it out loud. Anchor it.

• Don’t manifest from desperation. Wait until you feel connected, not depleted.

• Rest. Your nervous system needs integration, not just stimulation.

🌹 The Truth?

Using your sexual energy can absolutely change your life.

But it will also ask you to change with it.

To rise into more responsibility, more sovereignty, and more integrity.

Because with great turn-on…

Comes great accountability.

🌙 Sex After Trauma: Rebuilding the Bridge

Trauma doesn’t just live in memory—it lives in the body. And when it comes to sex, that lingering imprint can make something that’s supposed to be intimate feel unsafe, detached, or even terrifying. If you’ve ever found yourself frozen during touch, disconnected during intimacy, or overwhelmed by your own body, you’re not alone.

💔 What Trauma Does to Intimacy

Trauma creates fragmentation. It breaks the flow between mind, body, and spirit. Sex might bring flashbacks, numbness, or guilt instead of desire. Touch can feel more like a threat than an invitation. Your nervous system might be doing its best to protect you—but that protection can come at the cost of pleasure.

⏳ Permission to Slow Down

There is no “normal” pace for healing. You don’t owe anyone orgasm, openness, or explanation. You get to say:

• “Not now.”

• “I’m not ready.”

• “Let’s pause.”

Going slow is sacred. It is how we rebuild trust—within ourselves first.

✋ Reclaiming Consent and Touch

One of the most powerful tools after trauma is self-consent.

Ask your body before you touch:

• “Is this okay?”

• “What would feel soothing?”

• “Do I need to stop?”

Self-touch can be grounding, even if it’s not sexual. Holding your heart. Pressing your feet into the ground. Tracing your skin just to say, “This is mine.”

💬 Sexual Communication in Healing

With a partner? Communication becomes your bridge.

You might say:

• “Please stay close, but don’t touch yet.”

• “Can we go slower?”

• “I want to enjoy this—but I might need to stop, and that doesn’t mean I don’t care.”

Clear boundaries aren’t barriers. They’re doorways to real connection.

🌺 Pleasure Can Be Part of the Healing

You don’t need to rush back into sex to reclaim your sensuality.

Pleasure can look like:

• A warm bath with oil.

• Lying on your bed with music.

• Letting your hips sway to a song that reminds you of who you were before the hurt—or who you’re becoming now.

Rebuilding doesn’t always mean going back. Sometimes, it means reimagining everything.

🖤 You Are Not Broken

You are not behind. You are not too damaged.

You are healing, and healing deserves patience.

Each act of self-trust, each breath where you feel safe, each “no” you honor, and each “yes” you reclaim—that is the bridge.

Journal Prompts

• What does safety in sex or sensuality feel like for me right now?

• Where do I hold tension in my body when I think about intimacy?

• What kind of touch or sensation makes me feel most grounded?

🕯️ Sacred Touch: The Body as an Altar

We often talk about the body in terms of pleasure or performance. But what if we spoke of it as a temple? An altar. A living, breathing site of worship — not just for others, but for ourselves.

At Your Pleisure, we explore sexuality not just as a physical act, but as a portal. And touch — when offered with intention — becomes a sacred language.

This isn’t just about sex.

It’s about how you relate to your body.

How you listen to it.

Adorn it.

Worship it.

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✨ What Is Sacred Touch?

Sacred touch is the intentional, present, reverent act of connecting with the body — your own or another’s — as something holy.

It’s not rushed.

It’s not goal-driven.

It’s not performative.

Instead, it’s a practice of presence. Of slowness. Of honoring the body as a vessel for energy, emotion, sensuality, and soul.

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💆🏾‍♀️ How to Practice Sacred Touch

Here are a few ways to begin reclaiming the body as an altar:

1. Start With Self

Before offering sacred touch to someone else, start with you.

Take time to anoint your own skin. Not just lotion or skincare, but intentional strokes. Gratitude. Worship.

Touch your thighs with reverence. Your belly without shame. Your chest with care.

Try this: Apply oil slowly after a bath. Breathe deeply. Say thank you to the parts of you that hold tension, softness, or memory.

2. Set Sacred Space

Candles. Music. Clean sheets. Silence. Whatever signals to your nervous system: “This is intentional. I’m safe here.”

Sacred doesn’t have to mean serious — but it does mean present. You’re arriving with your full self, not distracted or disconnected.

3. Ask for Consent — Energetically and Verbally

Sacred touch invites constant check-in. It honors the shifts. It listens for the no, the hesitation, the sigh.

Whether you’re touching a partner or yourself, the altar deserves respect.

Try asking: “How would you like to be touched today?”

Or: “Body, what do you need right now?”

4. Slow Down

The faster we go, the more we miss.

Sacred touch thrives in slowness — in the in-between moments. The exhale before the moan. The pause before the shift.

Slow is sexy. Stillness is sacred.

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🌿 Why It Matters

In a world that rushes, consumes, and objectifies bodies — especially marginalized ones — sacred touch is an act of reclamation.

It’s saying: I am more than something to be used.

I am a body and a soul.

And I deserve touch that honors both.

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🕯️ Final Words

Your body is an altar.

A place of memory. Pleasure. Power.

May you approach it with the same reverence you’d offer to any sacred space.

May you touch with care. Speak with love.

And remember: the divine lives in your skin.

✨ Sex as Energy Work

Ever felt emotionally shifted after intimacy? That’s no coincidence. You can either feel drained or energized after sex. That is going to depend on the type of energy your partner is in; feeling drained is most associated with an energy vampire or low vibing energy as feeling energized is associated with a soul connection or energy alignment. (Do you pay attention to how you feel after sex?)

Sex stirs up energy — emotional, physical, spiritual — and when it’s conscious and consensual, it can be incredibly healing. When both are open-hearted and attuned, this exchange can:

• Clear blocked energy centers (chakras)

• Rebalance the nervous system

• Restore feelings of wholeness and grounding

❤️ Activation of the Heart & Sacral Chakras

• Heart chakra (love, compassion) opens with emotional intimacy.

• Sacral chakra (creativity, pleasure) awakens through physical pleasure.
  Together, this alignment bridges love and desire, healing any split between emotional and physical intimacy.

🧘🏾‍♀️ Release of Emotional Trauma

Safe, consensual sex can create a container where:

• Old wounds (especially those related to body shame, rejection, or sexual trauma) can surface and be released

• Tears, laughter, or spontaneous emotions during or after sex may signal deep energetic purification

🍃 Access to Altered States of Consciousness

High levels of arousal and orgasm can open access to:

• Transcendent experiences (feelings of oneness, ego dissolution)

• Spiritual downloads or insights

• Heightened intuition or creative inspiration

This is especially emphasized in tantric and Taoist sexual practices.

🤲🏾 Sacred Intimacy as a Mirror

• Your partner can act as a mirror to your soul, reflecting parts of you that need love or attention.

• Sex becomes a spiritual practice when it’s used to grow in self-awareness, acceptance, and vulnerability.

Whether it’s through deep breathing, full-body presence, or mindful touch, pleasure helps move energy. It can clear blocks, ease trauma stored in the body, and awaken your senses in ways that feel deeply aligned and intuitive.