IV. “Healing Through Sensation”
Theme: Trauma-informed pleasure
Tone: Gentle, validating
Letting the Body Lead
We’re taught to think our way through everything—
Relationships. Healing. Desire. Even sex.
But the body? The body whispers truths the mind won’t admit.
Sensation is a sacred language.
It doesn’t lie.
It doesn’t negotiate.
It simply is.
🔥 Why sensation matters:
When we slow down and listen to what’s happening beneath the surface—
the tight jaw, the soft belly, the skipped heartbeat—we begin to uncover what we’re really feeling.
Pleasure. Discomfort. Longing. Resistance.
It’s all valid. It’s all information.
Instead of asking, “What should I do?”
Try asking,
✨ “What do I feel?”
✨ “Where is it in my body?”
✨ “What does it need from me?”
This is heading through sensation.
🌙 A Practice: 3-Minute Sensory Drop-In
Get still. Feel where your body touches the ground or the chair.
Close your eyes. Bring awareness to your skin, breath, heartbeat.
Ask: Where do I feel the most aliveness?
Let that part of you lead. Let it move, stretch, or breathe in a new way.
Stay curious. No performance. No pressure. Just presence.
💌 Why this matters
Sensation is where consent begins.
It’s where pleasure lives.
It’s the compass that brings you back to yourself.
You don’t have to figure everything out to move forward.
Sometimes, you just have to feel your way through.
Head through sensation. The rest will follow.
II. “Pleasure as Self-Knowing”
Theme: Solo exploration
Tone: Reflective, body-positive
Exploring your pleasure doesn’t have to be for someone else. In fact, some of the most powerful moments happen when it’s just you, your body, and a little curiosity.
Pleasure is a form of listening. What makes you feel grounded? Open? Playful? When we practice noticing without judgment, we build intimacy with ourselves—and that ripples outward into every relationship.
Theme: Solo exploration
Tone: Reflective, body-positive
Exploring your pleasure doesn’t have to be for someone else. In fact, some of the most powerful moments happen when it’s just you, your body, and a little curiosity. I began to explore myself at the age of 14. I used to sneak into our TV room after 12am and tune in to whatever HBO had to offer that night. My favorites were: The Seduction of Maxine, Taxicab Confessions, and Real Sex. They inspired me to explore myself and discover my sensitive spots. Knowing myself, later made me the ultimate teacher in guiding my partner on how to please me.
Pleasure is a form of listening. What makes you feel grounded? Open? Playful? When we practice noticing without judgment, we build intimacy with ourselves—and that ripples outward into every relationship.
🗣️ Pillow Talk Blog
Why Pleasure Deserves a Seat in Sex Education
(Estimated Read Time: 2–3 minutes)
Most of us were taught that sex education was about protection, prevention, and maybe a banana on a desk. What we weren’t taught? That pleasure matters.
In fact, many adults carry unspoken shame around what they enjoy—or don’t. They’ve never been given the tools to talk about sex, let alone explore it with curiosity or confidence.
At YourPleisure, we believe that sex education should go beyond biology and fear. We believe it should:
Teach consent as a conversation, not a checkbox
Celebrate curiosity, not just caution
Include all genders, all bodies, and all types of desire
Pleasure isn’t the “extra credit.” It’s part of a full, informed, embodied sex education.